How to love your self ?

Anne Siret Health, Self development, Self healing, Well being Leave a Comment

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Do you know how much LOVE do you have for yourself ? Not the narcissistic kind of love, but the type of love that empowers you and help you to make choices that are good for your authentic self.
Self-Love is as much as about biology as psychologyScientific evidence has proven that Love and Kindness changes the brain, impacts the heart and immune system, is an antidote to depression and even slows the ageing process. While there is no doubt we are wired for self-preservation, the fact is we are also actually genetically wired to love and be kind (yes, I know that for some of you it’s hard to believe!) When you display kindness or compassion towards someone, the reason why you feel happy is that the bonding act produces a hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin is well known for its role in childbirth and breastfeeding, as well as the role it plays in the early stages of intimate and loving relationships (it’s been referred to as the chemical of emotional connection or the bonding hormone). When oxytocin levels are elevated above normal, most people experience intense feelings of love, forgiveness, compassion, joy, wholeness, and empathy. Simply put, kindness makes us happier, and who doesn’t want more happiness?

So, the most important decision of your life, the one that will affect the every other decision you make to feel happier, is the commitment to display kindness about yourself and “deeply and completely love and accept yourself”– By the way, I would like to remind those who use the so powerful self-help tool EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) that “deeply and completely love and accept  myself” is part of the “setup statement” – Loving yourself is not a “one time” event. It is an endless, ongoing process and it begins with you, enfolding yourself in your own affection and appreciation. You deserve to be happy. You have a right to be accepted and loved. If necessary, seek help from a support group, counsellor  or coach. It’s the best investment you can make.

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So, let give a try and read these simple self-love tips that will help you to feel worthy and show you how to better love yourself.

SELF-LOVE TIP # 1

Most of us learn to have low self-esteem. It’s often through being shamed, criticised or in the presence of people with low self-esteem and learning from their habits. Of course, it’s not parents’ intention to sap self-worth from their children. They learned their parenting styles from their own parents, who learned from theirs, and so on. Most parents simply want what is best for their children and we can help ourselves to move on in life if we remember that. There is a huge advantage to understanding that a self-love deficit was learned. The first step towards a good self-esteem is realising that low self-love was learned. We were not born that way. And given that, if we have learn it, we then naturally arrive at the conclusion that we can also unlearn it. Magic !  🙂

SELF-LOVE TIP # 2

Most of us understand that our emotions affect our body meaning when we feel emotionally tense our body will also tense. When we feel happy, our face relaxes, we smile and our breathe is fluid. But it works the other way too. Tensing our body can make us feel emotionally tense, while breathing fluidly, relaxing our face can actually make us feel happier. 
So, if feeling of low self-worth are reflected in your body, pay attention to your body language and practise changing how you feel by changing your body. You can cultivate healthier feeling of self-worth simply by adopting a posture and movements that reflect power. Research at Harvard University has shown that just 2 minutes of intentional body posture can affect body chemistry and feelings of confidence.  🙂

SELF-LOVE TIP # 3

The brain doesn’t distinguish between real and imaginary. Plenty of researches shows that it changes as we do something and changes by about the same amount if we imagine doing the thing instead. Rehabilitation specialists use this phenomenon of neuro-plasticity to help their patients recovering from a stroke, because imagining movement actually helps the brain to recover. Elite athletes do the same through visualisation to enhance their performance. So, why not imagining ourselves thinking and acting in a way that is congruent with healthy self-worth and our brain will wire in this level of better self-esteem. We can also forget to have low self-worth and the brain networks connected with our lack of self-love will simply dissolve.   🙂

😉  And now, if you want to move further and learn how to practice SELF-LOVE GYM, I recommend you the inspirational and transformational book  I HEART ME: the science of self-love” written by Dr David Hamilton who offers simple powerful transformation exercises that will leave you feeling better about yourself than you have ever felt before

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